Couples Counselling in W1, Maida Vale & London


Welcome to my page for couples

Couples counselling in London provides an opportunity to explore the conflicts and difficulties within your relationship.
I coach couples to find new ways to communicate and navigate their way their way back into connection and find ways to move forward.

Many of the couples I see have lost connection somewhere along the way and are struggling to find their way back. This loss of connection is incredibly painful and conflicts are often a way of expressing this pain. Relationships can be challenging but they are also an opportunity for us to know ourselves better and heal the difficulties of the past.

"Conflict is just growth trying to happen."
 

Here are a few key points about relationship conflict;
 
  • Not many of us are taught how to be in a relationship or how to communicate and express our needs. We think we should know how to do it and we particularly think I partners should. As a result it's no wonder that most of us struggle in relationships at some point.
  • Your relationship may have transformed into something frustrating and painful. You may feel stressed and overwhelmed by fear or anger. This is not unusual and you are not alone.
  • Most couples who are struggling have lost the connection they enjoyed at the beginning and this is very painful. It is this loss that causes most conflict.
  • It is possible to find a way back into connection beyond the conflict via a willingness to try and a curiosity to see what might happen.

In my work with couples I am inspired by many great teachers within this field, such as - Harville Hendrix (Imago / Getting the Love you want), Esther Parel (Mating in Captivity), Byron Katie (The Work) and Hedy Schleifer (Encounter-centered therapy). Here is a short film where Hedy responds to the question - can couples fall back in love with each other?
 

The counselling space enables understanding through discovering new ways of communicating. Whether your intention is to re-build your relationship or have a safe space in which to move on, counselling provides a unique opportunity to explore, be heard and understood. Also, to listen - a task that nearly all of us find a challenge. We are all experts in what is going for us and our needs but find it difficult to truly appreciate the needs of our partners, especially when we feel angry or hurt. We want them to get us and feel so disappointed when they don't. Counselling can help make sense of these confusions, obstacles and relational struggles.
 

How can I help?

In my practice I guide the couples I work with back into communication. I see the stage that couples reach where things seem to have broken down as an opportunity for personal growth, both as individuals and as a couple. I am passionate about self-development and in understanding the nature of relationships.

I appreciate how important relationships are and how challenging they can be. Sometimes the work is about understanding why we are with the person we have chosen as this can often get lost over time. Sometimes it’s about reconnecting and other times it’s about letting go and moving on. I can help you as a couple to examine your difficulties and discover new ways to better understand yourself and your relationship.


Some of the models and techniques I use include - Psychodynamic (Relational / Family), Transactional Analysis (Relational), Encounter (Intimacy), Imago (Communication and Relational), Psycho-sexual (Sex and sexuality).

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Some of the issues I have helped couples with include;
 
  • Disconnection
  • Betrayal and affairs
  • Parenting styles
  • Sex and intimacy
  • Family dynamics
  • Relationship agreements and visions
  • Independence and interdependency
  • Love and romance
  • Reclaiming the self
  • Reclaiming the relationship
  • Marriage and civil partnerships
  • Anger and conflict
  • Power struggles
  • Effects of bullying
  • Sexual abuse and rape
  • Family interference
  • Addiction
  • Internet / social media intrusions
  • Open relationships
  • Adoption
  • Communication
  • Depression
  • Loss and grief
  • Stress / anxiety
What others say
Everyone has a different experience of how psychotherapy has benefited them. Here is what a couple of clients have offered about their own experiences...
“Talking therapy has helped me find some order during a very chaotic and difficult period in my life. Simply saying the words helped shine some light but the real benefit for me was putting structure to my thoughts and feelings. Being in an environment without an agenda and without judgment helped me better understand myself.”
 
“Through therapy I have learned that all the answers are inside myself, that I have the solutions. I have learned techniques to tap into them and to trust myself and my own insight more. Instead of running away from myself when I am panicking about something, I can now turn towards myself and face the difficulties I might be facing with more confidence.”

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